Happy Endings & New Beginnings

Since I returned to the US and began working full time, I have stopped by this blog every week and stared at its pages, trying to answer two (2) overwhelming questions: (1) How do I end this? and (2) How do I begin again? Classic break-up questions if ever I saw some. But as always, and perhaps, as is to be expected from me, both questions have boiled down to just one: How do I make this work?

You see, over the past few months in my new job, it has become clear that I can no longer make the time (as I used to), to sit down towards the end of the month, and write about all the interesting things that have happened in the weeks prior. I have kept a list, a backlog if you will, of all the things I want to write about, and with each month’s passing my backlog has grown.

How do I make this work?

Meanwhile, I have been trying very hard to keep up a cordial friendship with an ex whom I have fallen out of sorts with. An ex with whom it has been obvious for some time that a continued friendship is unlikely, and yet one whom I did not want to part ways with on bad terms. But as the new year rolled in, this ex wrote to me, saying (and I quote):

“As this year ends, I would like to leave the past behind, and focus on my goals for the year ahead. I recognize your efforts to maintain a friendship with me, however I would like [to] reemphasize my seriousness when I say I do not share your sentiment. I wish you the best in the new year to come, but I cannot entertain a friendship between us.”
It was certainly a bittersweet moment

Yet as I lay mourning the loss of a loved one, I came to appreciate the lesson learned: That sometimes, as with this friendship, things must come to an end…and that I, prefer the other times 😀

Which brings us back to my backlog, and how I am going to make this work. Going forward, my plan is:

  • To write weekly instead of monthly. 1 article a week, probably on the weekends.
  • To start separate blogs for recurring topics.
    • I have already started my first: To Nigeria, My Country (Articles on my trip to Nigeria and more coming soon)
  • To slowly whittle this blog down to topics about bonds and relationships (as the concept has always implied) 🙂

So as I wave goodbye to 2013, and to an old love, I renew my commitment to you my readers, hoping that in 2014 and the years to come, our relationship (and my writing) will only get better.


Damola Mabogunje

Software Engineer by day, Blogger, Poet and Author, by night, I spend my days writing everything from the convex comma, to highly complex code.

2 thoughts on “Happy Endings & New Beginnings

  1. Interesting read and I like your friend who knows when something is not going to work and can call it as it is. Sometimes in life, we have to make this ‘hard’ call. You are a big boy – you will be very fine 🙂

    Looking forward to the weekly!

    1. Yes oh! I had to commend her too… and that is why it was bittersweet. Because as much as it wasn’t the outcome I wanted, and as much as other conversations had been had (and steps taken) to indicate her resolve, I couldn’t help but appreciate the directness of this particular approach.

      It wasn’t about who did what, or “let’s be friends, but…” It was a plain and simple, “Look, there is no possible way this is going to work, and I need to move on.”

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