Happy Endings & New Beginnings

Damola Mabogunje -

Since I returned to the US and began working full time, I have stopped by this blog every week and stared at its pages, trying to answer two (2) overwhelming questions:

  1. How do I end this? and
  2. How do I begin again?

Classic break-up questions if ever I saw some. But as always, and perhaps, as is to be expected from me, both questions have boiled down to just one: How do I make this work?

You see, over the past few months in my new job, it has become clear that I can no longer make the time (as I used to), to sit down towards the end of the month, and write about all the interesting things that have happened in the weeks prior. I have kept a list, a backlog if you will, of all the things I want to write about, and with each month's passing my backlog has grown.

Meanwhile, I have been trying very hard to keep up a cordial friendship with an ex whom I have fallen out of sorts with. An ex with whom it has been obvious for some time that a continued friendship is unlikely, and yet one whom I did not want to part ways with on bad terms. But as the new year rolled in, this ex wrote to me, saying (and I quote):

"As this year ends, I would like to leave the past behind, and focus on my goals for the year ahead. I recognize your efforts to maintain a friendship with me, however I would like [to] reemphasize my seriousness when I say I do not share your sentiment. I wish you the best in the new year to come, but I cannot entertain a friendship between us."

Yet as I lay mourning the loss of a loved one, I came to appreciate the lesson learned: That sometimes, as with this friendship, things must come to an end... and that I, prefer the other times 😀

Which brings us back to my backlog, and how I am going to make this work. Going forward, my plan is:

  • To write weekly instead of monthly. 1 article a week, probably on the weekends.
  • To start separate blogs for recurring topics.
  • I have already started my first: To Nigeria, My Country (Articles on my trip to Nigeria and more coming soon)
  • To slowly whittle this blog down to topics about bonds and relationships (as the concept has always implied) 🙂

So as I wave goodbye to 2013, and to an old love, I renew my commitment to you my readers, hoping that in 2014 and the years to come, our relationship (and my writing) will only get better.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!